connection success

so I was thinking to myself last time, about friendships. These things are the basis of any human interaction - they themselves have a hierarchy of levels and subgroups.
There are the acquaintances you do the polite nod and walk on by thing with, then there are the ones you do to "Hi! Al-right? How are you?" kiss kiss hug hug sort of thing with. Then start the more substantial sort of friendships, with colleagues where you have a chat about recent ongoings, what you did last night (censored if needs be) and the hot gossip from around. Then the better friends who you allow to know your frustrations and latest crushes and people you would actually chose to socialize with. At the very top of this ever so weirdly shaped pyramid...is the best friend.

This is the person who you can be 100000% yourself with, you do not have to censor your thoughts or beliefs, you can share discussions with about the most intimate of details, and where there are no big flashy signs saying NO ENTRY or UNCOMFORTABLE because you are both so open with each other that even discussing things like sex, fetishes, personal flaws, personal traumas, general observations on life, body issues, eating disorders, family issues...the whole bunch, is done with complete ease. Having this sort of person in your life, where all the masks that we use to protect ourselves and make ourselves "seem normal" to the outside world can just dissolve and one can just be. No fear of judgement, no fear of regret, just pure honesty. That is a great thing to have with someone. I call it "someone to show the crazy to". I believe that having this sort of bond with someone is a luxury and that unfortunately not everyone can boast of such a luxury. Okay some may find it in a close parent, or a lover. But when a person is a friend, their perspective is probably not tainted by the fact that that they remember you going to school on the first day or they have to kiss you later on.

I was also thinking about the events that lead up to someone forming such a friendship...and I have derived that it is basically all up to chance. Some of the best friends that I have ever had, I met by complete chance. Random midnight walks, bumping into each other in chemistry class, on-line social networking websites, asking for directions to the bathroom... that kind of thing. And it all adds to the magic of such a friendship. Not to say that such bonds are infallible, as major deal breakers do arise, but even when these friendships still dissolve - there is still a very strong bond that is kept between the two people. So that after months or even years of not talking or never seeing that person, just one look and smile can confirm the connection.

so I dedicate this blog to great friends....the real kind.