the softer side.

so, were obviously all different right? and so, what I do not get is how some people tend to be so insensitive to other people. We all know what it is like to be hurt verbally, and it kinda sucks. So why is it, that in this day and age of "social refinement" do people from all walks of life manage to pass such evil comments against others, just on the premise of  "I have an opinion, lets see how loud I can be about it".

I understand that sometimes when someone is specifically hurt by another person, they would want to call them bad words and stuff like that. Even though this is unacceptable in certain circles, it is surely understandable. But when people don't know each other from Adam, yet still find ways to be absolutely evil to each other - that I cannot understand. Case in point can be seen from any popular article on The Times of Malta where the idiocy of people and he hurtful comments are rife! People seem feel the need to pass judgement on anything under the sun. From the dying of a cancer patient who also happened to be a convict, to the use of anti-depressants in people who suffer from depression.

Even when watching a programme with relatives, the undertones of judgement and ignorance are so evident. I was watching The Weakest Link last time, and one of the contestants was an out-and-proud gay woman. She also happened to dress in a particular manner that identifies her as "butch". Now, someone passed a comment "What a DYKE!" and I thought "Well now, that is a very sharply tuned observant eye you have there." I mean Seriously. Yes she was gay, and she was comfortable enough with herself to go on international television and dress and present herself in a way that she felt comfortable. Why is that an issue for you? Why do you feel the need to speak in a derogatory manner about her? She certainly was not offending this commentator personally or directly, and had absolutely no connections with said commentator. Yet still we seem incapable of the very simple term: Live and Let live.

I find it incredible how even the most "educated" and high ranking professionals of this time, find it incredibly hard to accept variety within society, and that certain things just ARE, regardless of your opinion regarding them. An overweight person, IS overweight, but saying "oh my god what a fatty!" is not helpful, nor intelligent. A person with special needs, IS a person with special needs, saying "Retard" or "cretin" does absolutely nothing to help anyone's situation or prove any point - apart from indicate that you are not well bred yourself.

I personally try to follow a personally applied value: Live and let live, Love and let love.
I find myself very open to people from all walks of life and from all sorts of value backgrounds, as long as a person has made an educated choice in their life then I have no business interfering, as they have no business interfering in my life. Even when clashes can be on very fundamental differences, there is still a way to get along with others - just avoid the topic, or if you are going to talk about it, approach it with an open mind, and not in an aggressive defensive manner. Learning to disagree is another thing people need to appreciate. I have my opinion regarding certain issues and you have yours. It is OKAY to have a different opinion, we do not need to convert each other. The minimum duality of every issue is unavoidable.